The dangerous new trend threatening the dating world

The initial days of getting to know someone are filled with a rollercoaster of emotions. From eagerly waiting for their messages to the sudden panic when you discover their dislike for animals (a deal breaker, of course), the dating world is now facing a perilous new trend.

While there are numerous reasons why a budding romance or an exciting date may fail, such as genuine incompatibility or conflicting desires, a new fad interaction is posing a threat to new couples everywhere.

Enter PMI, or premature intimacy. It's like TMI, but with a dangerously specific twist. This trend involves the impulse to nervously overshare too early in a relationship, such as divulging details about a recent nervous breakdown and hospitalization on a second date. Sharing excessive information and forcing intimate conversations that are inappropriate for the early stages of dating can be a sign of neediness or, in severe cases, a personality disorder.

Qualified therapists often emphasize the importance of establishing healthy boundaries and effective communication at the start of a new relationship. Signs of PMI may indicate an excessive need for closeness or a fear of rejection. However, excessive intimacy too soon is never a good sign. Since when has attaching the word "early" to something been beneficial?

But what exactly is PMI? It goes beyond TMI, as it involves not just oversharing personal information but also bombarding the relationship with an overwhelming amount of intimacy. In essence, it incorporates the projection of trauma into the early stages of the relationship. Picture yourself on a date, casually chatting about various aspects of your lives, when suddenly, before you've even finished your peanuts, your date starts discussing trust issues stemming from their past betrayal.

While intimacy is a crucial element of any relationship, rushing into it too soon can easily ruin the budding connection. PMI can manifest in various ways, such as excessive physical affection, using overly affectionate names, or prying into personal matters too early on.

"It's a delicate balance," says Grace, a relationship expert. "Every relationship has its own timeline, and it's easy to get swept away in the excitement of something new. However, it's crucial to maintain self-boundaries and avoid getting lost in the whirlwind of a relationship." According to relationship expert Jessica Alderson, premature intimacy has become increasingly common in today's dating landscape. It may stem from a fear of rejection or a desire to create a strong connection by quickly sharing personal information, hoping to appear more interesting or trustworthy.

So, what are the implications of PMI? Finding the right level of intimacy is a challenge for any couple, whether they've been together for two weeks or twenty years. Intimacy naturally fluctuates throughout different stages of a relationship, and it is vital to set healthy expectations from the beginning, especially in the early stages. Many new couples feel pressured to emulate the picture-perfect relationships portrayed on social media.

"Social media sells us a dream, an idealized version of romance," says Grace. "But it's important to remember that those representations are often unrealistic. Exposing a new relationship to intense intimacy before it's ready only creates cracks and can cause irreparable damage."

One of the joys of a new relationship is gradually discovering each other's lives and unveiling the fascinating aspects of each other's personalities. "Gradual disclosure of personal details contributes to the mystery and excitement that develop over time," explains Alderson. "Too much intimacy in the early stages accelerates this process artificially, exacting a toll later on and hindering the development of a strong and lasting relationship."

In conclusion, while the initial stages of dating can be exhilarating, it's crucial to strike a balance and avoid rushing into premature intimacy. Taking the time to build a solid foundation based on healthy boundaries and gradual disclosure will ultimately lead to a more fulfilling and lasting relationship.